Separation Distress
Takes time and patience to work through - do not rush it
As a professional dog trainer, we are unable to make a diagnosis of Separation Anxiety – however, we may recommend you consult a veterinarian or veterinary behaviourist.
The term Separation Distress is often used to describe any problem behaviour that arises in the owner’s absence. This is often purely descriptive in that it describes what happens rather than identifying the specific cause.
It is often useful if you the owner, can video the behavior of the pet when left. This helps to identify both the cause and the emotional state of the pet accurately.
Some reasons that an animal may not cope when left alone include
Over dependence upon an owner for emotional support
The dog may have experienced a fear-provoking incident or even (an example may be a thunderstorm) that initially occurred when the owner wasn’t present
It may also relate to the stress of confinement or barrier frustration.
Whatever the cause, behaviour modification is usually required for long-term resolution of the problem.
Some patients will benefit from the use of behaviour medications – you will need to consult with your veterinarian regarding these.
Pheromones may also help. Adaptil (Dog Appeasing Pheromone) is available as a collar, spray or plug in diffuser. Feliway (Feline Facial Pheromone) is available as a spray and plug in diffuser.
If your pet is at risk of or has hurt himself than a consultation with a veterinary behaviourist is highly recommended.
Provide environmental enrichment including long lasting chew toys and food dispensing toys when left alone and also when you are home (otherwise the toy may become the predictor of your absence).
Praise and attention should be given when the dog is calm, relaxed or chewing appropriately, rather than when they are attention seeking.
Some of the protocol below is from the BSAVA manual of canine and feline behavioural medicine.
Diminish distress on routine departures
Change how you interact with your dog
Teach Calmness
Confidence Building
Departure Training Exercises
Begin by setting up the safe home alone space - make sure your dogs favorite bed/mat or crate is available for them.
Next teach your dog to chill in this area. Initially with you in their with them - engaged in your computer, watching TV, or reading a book - so with them, but not engaging them. Reward and praise them for relaxing, next reward them for not getting up and following you when you move around in proximity.
Look at Kiko Pup and "Capturing calmness"
Once your dog is comfortable with you moving around while he is in his safe space, engaged with lick mat, settled on bed/mat, able to engage with his toy or chew etc, start moving in and out of the room. If the dog does not follow - great! This can take weeks to get to this point. If the dog does follow, break it down smaller.
Next add a barrier - this could be an exercise pen, baby gate, closed door etc.
Work with this until your dog is comfortable again as per prior to the addition of the barrier.
Once the dog is comfortable with the barrier - we start actually planning for departure (our planned departures).
Break this down in to incredibly small components
Behaviours to watch for and avoid during this exercise are
Planned training departures
Ideally, we train separation anxiety while never leaving the dog alone. This could mean that you need pet sitters, change of family routine etc, however, it is not always possible.
Use a new safety signal, and only use this signal on planned departures, never on routine departures such as leaving for work/school.
Initial departures must be very short (seconds up to 1 minute) as we mentioned above.
Departures must be like usual departures (take keys, bags, go to car etc).
Keep interactions low key with your dog for 15 minutes prior to departure. A few long slow pats prior to departure may help. Avoid high arousal games, rough play etc. Remember gentle and casual interactions.
Just before leaving use the new signal (could be music, a certain item etc) - I used a particular candle - not lit.
Return within the designated time; do not be tempted to stay away longer
When you return home, again talk to your dog and acknowledge them, but remain low key and casual.
Only increase the length of absence if no pre-departure anxiety is seen and no excitement or anxiety on return is evident
Only repeat the planned training departures when the dog is calm; do not do more than 3 in a row.
Initial progress will probably be slow and will take time before the dog can be left for longer periods of time.
The dog must be calm both when you depart and when you return for this training to be successful.
Technology is also your friend - use apps, cameras etc to monitor your dog. Record and document everything so you know if things are improving or not.
I use an app available only on iOS called Bark'n mad. It monitors audio and presents it in an easy to read graph when you return. I also use and recommend monitoring from a distance using IP cameras. Mine are dLink and Ring Stick Up camera brands.
Reference list and helpful books that you may wish to invest in.
DeMartini-Price, M. and Phairas, G. (n.d.). Treating separation anxiety in dogs. 1st ed.
Handelman, B., 2008. Canine behavior. 1st ed. Norwich, VT: Woof and Word Press.
Horwitz, D. and Mills, D., 2009. BSAVA manual of canine and feline behavioural medicine. 1st ed. Quedgeley, Gloucester [England]: British Small Animal Veterinary Association
Jacobs, D. (n.d.). Does my dog need Prozac?. 1st ed.
Tucker, N., 2020. Treating Separation Anxiety
O'Heare, J. (2002). The canine separation anxiety workbook. 1st ed. Ottawa: Gentle Solutions.
Overall, K., 2013. Manual of clinical behavioral medicine for dogs and cats. 1st ed. St. Louis, MO: Elsevier
Wilde, N. (n.d.). Don't leave me!. 1st ed.
The term Separation Distress is often used to describe any problem behaviour that arises in the owner’s absence. This is often purely descriptive in that it describes what happens rather than identifying the specific cause.
It is often useful if you the owner, can video the behavior of the pet when left. This helps to identify both the cause and the emotional state of the pet accurately.
Some reasons that an animal may not cope when left alone include
Over dependence upon an owner for emotional support
- Treatment must focus on creating a more emotionally stable and independent dog.
The dog may have experienced a fear-provoking incident or even (an example may be a thunderstorm) that initially occurred when the owner wasn’t present
- The owners departure (and isolation) now comes to predict the possibility of further scary events (whether they occur or not)
It may also relate to the stress of confinement or barrier frustration.
- Attempts to escape rather than to regain owner’s company
Whatever the cause, behaviour modification is usually required for long-term resolution of the problem.
- Creating a safe home alone space - somewhere the dog prefers to spend time - when you are home. Putting them in the bathroom or laundry when you leave, when this is not a place they enjoy being, is not likely to end well.
- Make sure their basic needs are met
- good quality food
- they are in good health
- exercise (minimum of 30-60 minutes per day). The exercise doesn't have to be an out door walk if your dog finds this stressful, you can play at home etc.
- mental stimulation - training and enrichment feeding
- Set up the environment for success - for the dogs that like to look out windows but can't settle - obstruct their view outside - use frosted film on the windows - Bunnings in Aus, sells this product.
- Teaching the dog to relax and use their safe space
- Gradual desensitisation to alone time
- Confidence building exercises
Some patients will benefit from the use of behaviour medications – you will need to consult with your veterinarian regarding these.
Pheromones may also help. Adaptil (Dog Appeasing Pheromone) is available as a collar, spray or plug in diffuser. Feliway (Feline Facial Pheromone) is available as a spray and plug in diffuser.
If your pet is at risk of or has hurt himself than a consultation with a veterinary behaviourist is highly recommended.
Provide environmental enrichment including long lasting chew toys and food dispensing toys when left alone and also when you are home (otherwise the toy may become the predictor of your absence).
Praise and attention should be given when the dog is calm, relaxed or chewing appropriately, rather than when they are attention seeking.
Some of the protocol below is from the BSAVA manual of canine and feline behavioural medicine.
Diminish distress on routine departures
- Leave your dog with several food enhanced/dispensing toys - things that promote calm and not frustration - make sure he has lots of practice with this when you are home too - so they are not the predictor that you are always leaving. Only leave with toys, bones or chews etc, that you know your dog is safe with and you have previously trialed when you are home.
- Keep noise levels constant at home. If your house is always noisy when you are there, keep it noisy when you aren't. If your house is quiet when you are home, adding the noise of a TV or radio etc, may actually increase the stress.
- Do not make a fuss of your dog prior to your departure or on your return, but do not ignore them either - gentle and casual departures and greetings.
Change how you interact with your dog
Teach Calmness
- Train your dog to go to a location (mat, bed or crate) - not locked in crate, but this area should be in their safe space.
- Teach him or her to settle and relax
- Use changes in respiratory rate to judge this (decrease), body posture (relaxed and comfortable – usually on one hip or side) and facial expression (relaxed ears, soft or closed eyes, relaxed mouth)
- Check our the deference page - it teaches calmness and can also teach to take a deep breath on cue
Confidence Building
- use puzzles - commercial puzzles, rolled towels, cardboard boxes with scrunched paper, noise boxes etc
- play shaping games
- train tricks/husbandry
- scent work
- basic agility games - walking on and over "different" object, through tunnels etc (all of these should be at their own pace)
Departure Training Exercises
Begin by setting up the safe home alone space - make sure your dogs favorite bed/mat or crate is available for them.
Next teach your dog to chill in this area. Initially with you in their with them - engaged in your computer, watching TV, or reading a book - so with them, but not engaging them. Reward and praise them for relaxing, next reward them for not getting up and following you when you move around in proximity.
Look at Kiko Pup and "Capturing calmness"
Once your dog is comfortable with you moving around while he is in his safe space, engaged with lick mat, settled on bed/mat, able to engage with his toy or chew etc, start moving in and out of the room. If the dog does not follow - great! This can take weeks to get to this point. If the dog does follow, break it down smaller.
Next add a barrier - this could be an exercise pen, baby gate, closed door etc.
Work with this until your dog is comfortable again as per prior to the addition of the barrier.
Once the dog is comfortable with the barrier - we start actually planning for departure (our planned departures).
Break this down in to incredibly small components
- moving toward your exit door, and returning
- moving to the exit door, touching the handle and returning
- moving toward the exit door, moving the handle and returning
- moving toward the exit door, moving the handle, opening the door, closing the door and returning
- moving toward the exit door, opening the door, stepping outside, stepping inside, closing the door and returning
- moving toward the exit door, opening the door, stepping outside, closing the door, opening the door, stepping inside, closing the door, and returning
- moving toward the exit door, opening the door, stepping outside, closing the door, waiting a few seconds, opening the door, stepping inside, closing the door, and returning
- moving toward the exit door, opening the door, stepping outside, closing the door, waiting a few minutes, opening the door, stepping inside, closing the door, and returning
- Continue on this pattern until you are able to get in the car, open the front gate, take the lift etc, and gradually build up duration of deparature.
Behaviours to watch for and avoid during this exercise are
- Increase in distress as the trigger is presented
- Inability to settle in between presentations
- Your dog following and watching you
Planned training departures
Ideally, we train separation anxiety while never leaving the dog alone. This could mean that you need pet sitters, change of family routine etc, however, it is not always possible.
Use a new safety signal, and only use this signal on planned departures, never on routine departures such as leaving for work/school.
Initial departures must be very short (seconds up to 1 minute) as we mentioned above.
Departures must be like usual departures (take keys, bags, go to car etc).
Keep interactions low key with your dog for 15 minutes prior to departure. A few long slow pats prior to departure may help. Avoid high arousal games, rough play etc. Remember gentle and casual interactions.
Just before leaving use the new signal (could be music, a certain item etc) - I used a particular candle - not lit.
Return within the designated time; do not be tempted to stay away longer
When you return home, again talk to your dog and acknowledge them, but remain low key and casual.
Only increase the length of absence if no pre-departure anxiety is seen and no excitement or anxiety on return is evident
Only repeat the planned training departures when the dog is calm; do not do more than 3 in a row.
Initial progress will probably be slow and will take time before the dog can be left for longer periods of time.
The dog must be calm both when you depart and when you return for this training to be successful.
Technology is also your friend - use apps, cameras etc to monitor your dog. Record and document everything so you know if things are improving or not.
I use an app available only on iOS called Bark'n mad. It monitors audio and presents it in an easy to read graph when you return. I also use and recommend monitoring from a distance using IP cameras. Mine are dLink and Ring Stick Up camera brands.
Reference list and helpful books that you may wish to invest in.
DeMartini-Price, M. and Phairas, G. (n.d.). Treating separation anxiety in dogs. 1st ed.
Handelman, B., 2008. Canine behavior. 1st ed. Norwich, VT: Woof and Word Press.
Horwitz, D. and Mills, D., 2009. BSAVA manual of canine and feline behavioural medicine. 1st ed. Quedgeley, Gloucester [England]: British Small Animal Veterinary Association
Jacobs, D. (n.d.). Does my dog need Prozac?. 1st ed.
Tucker, N., 2020. Treating Separation Anxiety
O'Heare, J. (2002). The canine separation anxiety workbook. 1st ed. Ottawa: Gentle Solutions.
Overall, K., 2013. Manual of clinical behavioral medicine for dogs and cats. 1st ed. St. Louis, MO: Elsevier
Wilde, N. (n.d.). Don't leave me!. 1st ed.